When I was asked to write this, my initial reaction was to cringe. Reject the concept. Push it away.
Adult nursing — the act of breastfeeding another adult — has been documented for centuries. To modern eyes it all sounds a little bit, well, strange. We generally consider breastfeeding to be restricted to mothers and babies.
Illustration by Eleanor Doughty. Atlanta resident Jennifer Mulford does not look like someone the Daily Mail would describe as the "woman who shocked the world," save one detail: She likes to breastfeed her boyfriend. Fetishes, for the most part, aren't all that shocking anymore; you can read about anal sex on Buzzfeed and get BDSM tips from Women's Health.
According to Jennifer the couple have publicized their bizarre relationship in an attempt to normalise inhibitions around adult breastfeeding or 'Adult Breastfeeding Relationships. Jennifer has said that she had always been interested in adult breastfeeding and had tried to find a suitable partner through dating sites. She finally opened up to Brad, an old boyfriend from high school and when he expressed interest they formed a relationship.
Everything about breastfeeding is a choice that someone is going to have an opinion on: if a mom wants to do it, where she's comfortable doing, and how long she does it for. Moms also have the ultimate say over what they do with their milk. Some pump it and save it, some donate it, some have jewelry or keepsakes made out of it, some cook with it, and some even sell it for serious cash.
Jennifer Mulford took time off from her job as a bartender to establish breastfeeding because she wants to start an Adult Breastfeeding Relationship ABR with Brad Leeson. Thankfully, Brad was instantly open to the idea. I could tell from his voice that he was curious and excited.
This paper explores the weird and fascinating practice of adult breastfeeding in Ancient Rome. In it I examine possible connections between historical-mythological depictions of women breastfeeding their own parents, the columna lactaria and pharmacological uses of human breast milk in the medical and scientific writers. Ultimately I argue that the social perception of adult breastfeeding at Rome viewed it as something amazing, but not completely bizarre; attitudes towards adult breastfeeding were in some cases similar to attitudes surrounding women nursing their own children. Further, there must have been some sort of market for breast milk as a medicinal and nutritional commodity for adults.
Generally speaking, breastfeeding your husband, boyfriend, or partner is OK. It's not perverted or wrong if you want your spouse to breastfeed, or if your partner asks you if he can taste your breast milk and try breastfeeding. Many men are curious about breastfeeding, and they're still sexually interested in the breasts even when they're producing breast milk.